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My best friend since childhood has always been a natural leader. She’s charming, out-going, and a little bossy. She thinks in black and white, knows what she wants and goes after it, every time. Her insecurity meter is broken and when someone pays her a complement, her first instinct is to say, “I know.” I love her dearly, but I often want to punch her in the throat for being so ridiculously confident. 

In comparison, I am awkward, self-deprecating, and way more comfortable with the gray areas of life. I don’t exactly scream “natural born leader.” Yet here I am, leading my family as a mother, leading my company, and leading my clients as a marketing consultant. So when I think about growth as a leader, I automatically think I’m supposed to be more like Stacey.  Or like Hillary. Or like Cheryl Sandberg. Or like MLK, Jr. But definitely not like me. 

If you are reading this, you are likely wanting to know if you have what it takes to be a good or even great leader. But what makes a good leader and does it come down to personality? 

Ask yourself if it is possible for an introvert to be a great leader? What about a leader that isn’t a good public speaker? Who do people want to follow? The awkward girl at the party who is eating all the buffalo chicken dip? 

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When you have a personality type that doesn’t necessarily fit the stereotype of a leader in America, it can be unnerving when you are called upon to lead. If you don’t fit the mold, and you still desire to lead? That can be a real cluster. Here I refer you to my favorite Leadership Challenge saying: Leadership is everyone’s business.

The Problem with the American Leadership Stereotype

In our capitalist society, we are fed an archetype of a great leader that can hinder our vision for what makes a great leader: The most confident guy at the conference table, the cut-throat negotiators from Shark Tank, the charming personality that talks circles around the rest. If no leadership around you reflects your personality, you can easily feel like an imposter. How does one grow in leadership skills without losing themselves? 

You shouldn’t have to change who you are to be a great leader. But you do have to change. 

Enneagram and Leadership

What makes a great leader

In their book The Leadership Challenge James Kouzes and Barry Posner define leadership as “the art of mobilizing others to want to struggle for shared aspirations.”

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People, according to Kouzes and Posner, are not born leaders, they become great leaders by practice. 

Michael Hyatt, bestselling author, and successful entrepreneur. Inc. 5000 list of America’s fastest-growing private companies after experiencing 330 percent growth in just three years. identifies 5 characteristics of great leaders: Insight, initiative, influence, impact, and integrity. 

In his first book Leadership Mosaic, Leadership Reality’s CEO Daniel Montgomery unpacks different five characteristics of leaders for those in Christian leadership: conviction, creativity, courage, collaboration, and contemplation. 

Whatever it is that makes a great leader, no one person is born with these qualities fully developed. And you can study these qualities all day long, but that doesn’t make you automatically have them. There may be many perspectives on what qualities to make a great leader, but those qualities cannot be developed in a vacuum. They only are developed in relationship with others. 



The 9 Leadership Archetypes

Part of the coaching we do at Leadership Reality sets out a framework for leaders that begins with creating your Leadership Reality Profile. Much like a GPS, we have measurements that we take to determine your current location, where you came from and where you are heading. 

For us, understanding who you are now, the personality style you’ve developed since childhood, what your strengths and strategies are, how your past experiences made you the person you are is the first step in helping you achieve your final destination: leading with the whole self. 

Leadership Reality uses 3 main assessment tools to determine our client’s leadership archetypes or profiles. Leadership Challenge, Flippen, and the Enneagram. The Enneagram is easily the most inviting first step into the often cool waters of self-awareness. On the other hand, once you start swimming around in it, the Enneagram invites you further into a deep, limitless cavern of understanding into who you are, what motivates your choices and where you will find the most growth. 

For starters, the Enneagram is an ancient tool developed by desert monks of the early church. It is now used internationally as a tool for self-awareness, personal and professional growth. The tool is a 9 point star signifying 9 personality types: 

Type One aka: The Reformer, The Perfectionist; Type Two  aka: The Helper, The Giver, The Servant-Leader; Type Three aka: The Acheiver, The Performer; Type Four aka: The Artist, The Individualist; Type Five aka: The Investigator, The Observer; Type Six aka: The Loyalist, The Skeptic; Type Seven aka: The Enthusiast, The Innovator; Type Eight aka: The Challenger, The Boss; Type Nine aka: The Peacemaker, The Mediator

Only after you know where you’ve been and where you are now can you determine how you can get to where you need to go. 

Once you have determined your leadership archetype, you will then begin to see the areas which make you a good leader and as well as what ways you need to grow. The beauty of the enneagram is that is it not a static personality test like the Myers-Briggs, the DISC profile or the like. Built within the Enneagram typology is the transformative story of your personality. The direction of growth is laid out for you. Within the 9 types, you will find 9 Invitations to begin your journey to becoming a great leader that is able to confront reality, embrace life as a gift, and offer hope to their followers.

Further Developing Your Awareness

If the enneagram interests you, several sources are available for developing a deeper understanding of your type. Here are just a few we here at Leadership Reality love:  


9 Types of Leadership by Beatrice Chestnut. 

The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Riso & Hudson. 

The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective by Richard Rohr. 


The Road Back to You by Ian Cron & Suzanne Stabile. 

Typology by Ian Morgan Cron.

Free enneagram tests online are available to quickly narrow down your number, though we recommend spending time reading more about each number and getting others from your community to weigh in. You can also get the full Riso Hudson test through us. We love to administer the test. Email us at Lauren@leadershipreality.orgBut what we love even more? Helping you see the path for transformation. 

Stacey, my bossy childhood friend is an 8. She loves challenges and doesn’t shirk from being in charge, but she has also grown into being a great leader. She has learned (from the enneagram) that sometimes her power needs to be softened, that control is at times a smokescreen for fear, and that to lead others, she has to spend as much time casting a vision for her people as she spends delegating the work. 

And in all my navel-gazing four-ness, I am on a path to becoming a great leader, too. I am learning to ruminate less and work more. I am learning that my vision falls flat without the credibility that comes with doing what I say I’m going to do. I am especially learning that if I am going to call others to struggle for a common goal, I need to practice embracing the mundane tasks of reality. 

It’s hard work, this leader becoming, but it’s a glorious, transformative journey you are all invited to take. 


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